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Soleil 3 Grandma 0 September 27, 2005

Posted by spacemom in : Life...otherwise , trackback

Well, Now that the ‘rents are heading back home, we can all take a big sigh of relief.

Please, understand that they were helpful. And the girls LOVED playing with their grandparents.

However, my parents and I are of a different mindset with parenting and it showed this weekend. Soleil is, um, strong willed. Many people describe her as “intense”. She and my mom got into three fights. I give all points to Soleil!

Fight #1:
I tell Soleil it is cleanup time and that there will be no nighttime TV if we don’t clean up. She starts to “fix” a toy while I change Luna for bed. While I do the diaper change, I hear my mom yelling and telling Soleil no TV. Deep breath. I got Soleil calmed down and talked to her alone. Turns out she wasn’t putting toys away until she fixed the toy she was working on. My mom cleaned up everything and then yelled at Soleil for not doing it. I told Soleil that she should have explained to grandma what she was doing. I told Mom that we don’t do Soleil’s jobs for her. We ask why she isn’t doing it and then we move on to getting her to do it. They apologized to each other. My mom said she didn’t realize Soleil was fixing something (because she didn’t LISTEN)

Fight #2:
I am showering and Soleil is crying at my bedroom door. She wants to use my bathroom instead of the main bath. Mom wants her to use the main bath. Honey, I don’t care WHICH toilet my kid uses as long as the pee goes IN a toilet and NOT my carpets. Sheesh She’s 3! She can pick which ever potty she wants!

Fight #3:
(ok, maybe not a fight) Last night, BOTH Soleil and Luna were screaming and I am running between the rooms. Neither kid will take Grandma or Poppa. Finally, mom gets Soleil calm. I hear “Don’t cry. It hurts my ears and I will leave if you cry because you are hurting me” (Note to mom SHE’S UPSET and SHE’S THREE! Just because she acts like she is 6 sometimes doesn’t mean she has the self control of a 6 year old. SHE’s 3!!!) She tells Soleil that mommy can’t be in both rooms at once.
When I get in there, Soleil throws herself at me and cries. I calm her. Then I explain that I can’t be with both of them at the same time. Soleil looks at me and said “Grandma said that, but she was being wrong. I can go in Luna’s room with you!” (I love her logic skills)

Sigh

Ok- So my parents left today….

Hey, anyone want to babysit my beautiful, CALM children for 30 minutes on Friday so we can get to the Red Sox, Yankees game on time?

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