I wonder how many people ask that. I read alot of blogs, but I bookmarked some of my favorites on the side. Funny thing is, there is a theme of Chinese adoption throughout them. But, I have two bio kids. And I am not planning on adopting. So why am I reading so many Chinese adoption blogs?
It started with T-shaped girl who hasn’t updated her blog in a while. She has been a member of a fertility board that I am on. We both went through infertility together. Our paths diverged when I finally got pregnant with Soleil. After I got pregnant with Luna, she and her husband made the decision to do Chinese adoption. They now have a BEAUTIFUL daughter. I started reading her blog, and then following some of her links. From there I found The Naked Ovary (again, I had read that a while ago), then the Uterine Wars. Do they have salsa in China? was so DAMN funny, that I felt really comfortable reading that. I then found Johnny, Sparky and Amber. From Sparky, I started following Karen’s journey to Gwen. Then I found Stephanie from Johnny. Whew. Following all of this?
I am finding the international adoption fascinating. Would I have followed this path if I lost Soleil? How would we have added to our family if Luna wasn’t bio? I had so many questions during my infertile years that I can’t help but watch from the sidelines and think about these things.
2 months before we got pregnant with Soleil, we talked to our Rabbi. His twins were IVF twins. He had lost 5 pregnancies including one at 9 months. (well, his wife, but it hurts the men too). We were looking at IVF and after that, adoption. The doctor wasn’t terribly hopeful, so I wanted to start investigating adoption. We had made a vow at our wedding that we would raise a Jewish family. I wanted to talk to the Rabbi about Jewish adoption agencies and how to start that.
But we were lucky. Soleil was conceived with a COS (controlled over-stimulation) + IUI (intra uterine insemination) cycle. We were lucky that she was a singleton (I released 5-7 eggs). We were lucky that despite the bleeding, we made it to 24 weeks. We were lucky that despite her dropping to zero station at 33 weeks, she was born without incident on her due date.
And we were lucky to conceive Luna 4 months into trying with only 1 loss. We were also lucky that Luna stay put after having pre-term contractions at 33 weeks that landed me on terbutaline.
But then again, I think that T-shaped girl is lucky. She has this amazing child in her life. I have seen photos of her and her beautiful daughter. They are both smiling as if they fell in love at first sight. And I think they did.
So, why am I reading your blog? Because, I really like your writing and you are following a path that might have been mine. We often have doors shut on us during life without even realizing it. Somewhere, I know that adoption was a route to our family that was more than just "a thought". And through all of you, I get to experience it. And I thank you for that!