Life, with a few less lemons January 27, 2006
Posted by spacemom in : Current Affairs , 1 comment so farSorry, guys. Karen’s news threw me into one of those funks where I wish I could solve everyone’s problems and I felt stupid for actually being upset about something here…
Back to me (because, it IS all about me, isn’t it?) Luna had her 18 month appointment yesterday. The good news first: She is 24 lbs, 33 inches and healthy! Bad news? I had the NP from hell. I hate working with this NP. I usually ask to not have her because she was so bad with Soleil’s 18 month appointment.
Soleil is usually with us at appointments and Dr. D, our ped, usually will do everything to Soleil first just to show Luna it is ok. Luna was hospitalized when she was 8 months old and this led to a serious fear of doctors. This NP refused to play along with Soleil. This made Soleil very sad. Then when it was time to check out Luna’s hips and diaper region, NP says "Does Luna need a new diaper? Let’s check" Dr Jay said, "no, she shouldn’t" and the NP hushed him saying that she doesn’t really mean that… Ok. Beef number 1. Tell the kids the truth. Dr. D ALWAYS says "I am going to look in your diaper now to make sure everything is healthy." How hard is that? Why can’t you just say that to a kid? Luna is not stupid. She understands a heck of alot and she just can’t express it all. Don’t treat her like an idiot! I think this is one thing that burns me the most, when people treat kids as if they don’t get things.
Then Beef number 2 came. NP set Luna on the scale. Luna saw the cool sliding weight and grabbed for it, moving it closer to her, closer to zero. The NP said "Oh, she is such a girl, moving the scale to her favor". Dr. Jay had to hold me back. I was snarling and had a growl in my throat. WTF? My daughter is 19 months old. She doesn’t give a damn about her weight. She shouldn’t give a damn if she is healthy. Why on earth would you say that to an 19 month old? What is wrong with you that you would start to reinforce those stupid ideas of physical image at such an early age????
I might call the office and ask who I could speak to or maybe even speak to her about these comments. I really was put off by them. Oh, and she kept us waiting almost 20 minutes even though we were her first appointment and we were the only people in the waiting room.
Sigh….
