This is all the rage these days: Shape of a Mother
I was planning to post about religion today, but no, This is calling my attention.
(oops, boss man cometh-more later)
Now where was I? Yes, Who decides what a mother should look like? I have high standards for myself. I wish I had an athletic body. Strong muscles and a flat abdomen. I would have thin hips and high cheekbones. I would swing by the toddler classroom at daycare with the ease of a chic woman and be the envy of all other moms..
Ugh, earth to Nance? Yeah, right.
OK- I am 5’3". I went through 4 pregnancies (1 really short, 1 for 2 months, 2 full term). Gained weight with all.
Changed my body shape with all but the short one.
So, should my body shape define me as a mom?
No. I think that my body shape is my shape. If I am unhappy with it in some regards (like the rolls of fat), maybe I should do something about it (more sit ups less M&Ms).
The web page starts with:
a mother changes everything in your world – including your body. Here
we share images of our bodies during and after pregnancy so we can see
what real women look like."
Do real women need to look a certain way? I think this does help in the sense that some women will never know that others look similar after childbirth, but then, I wonder about some of the comments. For example, you see someone who returned to a mostly pre-pregnant shape and the commentors gush about how great she looks. Does that mean the others don’t look great?
Anyway, just thinking about this site. And then Karen of the NO, comment on Terita’s blog made me really think about how empty I felt during infertility and pregnancy. I was convinced most of Soleil’s pregnancy that she wouldn’t make it….
Just some thoughts on this issue….