Oh yeah, I’ve got a poster to write. Am I? No. Too busy procrastinating. Sigh.
I need to go swipe Jay’s camera phone. The view out my window is AMAZING today. I swear I have the best office view in the area.
Yesterday, a waiting parent was saying that she wanted people to remind her later when she said that all of this waiting was making her patient.
The truth is simple. It doesn’t.
Infertility, adoption, whatever, doesn’t make you more patient with your child. Sorry. Parenting is a damn tough job. You don’t get many breaks. You parent night and day. You get slobbered on. In my case, you child licks you because she can (ick). You have to wipe butts, have a sick child puke on you, have a healthy child yell at you and tell you to go away. You have a partner who is just as worn as you are. And you try to make everything work: emotionally, finanically, physically.
And it doesn’t matter if you got pregnant on the first try, if you waited years through infertility or adopted, you lose you patience.
And the key is to not beat yourself up.
Parenting is hard. And anyone who tells you differently is bullshitting you.
PS: If you are reading this on a Mac in Brookline, Mass, please email me. Thanks
ETA: Here’s the cell cam view out my window… AH
On the other hand, you do learn a lot of patience really quickly once you become a parent. I’m a *lot* more patient than I used to be.
But, still…oh, yeah, you lose your patience. Big time.
Your kid licks you, too? Isn’t it gross?
This is sooo true! I used to think things like “If I could just have a baby, I’ll be the best mom in the world! no yelling, or anything(yeah, right)”. I had a lot of guilt about this the first year or so thinking I should just be so grateful all the time. Well, I am not perfect and kids are hard.
Ditto with all you said…and I have to ask, what is a poster???lol You seem to do a lot of those!lol
Julie – The Queen of Procrastination