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Slipping away September 12, 2007

Posted by spacemom in : Parenting 101 , trackback

Now that we’ve been integrated into our school for, oh a week and a half, I can feel a difference.

Last night, Soleil asked me to rest with her. Since I was exhausted, I grabbed my pillow and did just that.

And we talked. She told me about the boy she played with at school. The books she reads. How the lights go off during "quiet time"(state mandated!oy!) How hard it is to make friends.

It was nice. We’ve had our share of sleep issues. Trust me on that! But I didn’t mind taking the time to rest with her. We were able to connect. We used to connect at the end of the day on the ride home from daycare. It’s about 30 minutes from daycare to our house in the evening. Now we rush to get Luna, and drive to the after school program and get Soleil by 6pm. We connect with Luna, but not Soleil.

I can see us slipping now. I can see her growing up. She is now in school  She’ll start Girl Scouts soon (yippee) and in a year or two, she’ll be more and more independent. I want her to be independent. Oh yes, I want that, but it is hard to loosen the grip I have on her life.

I hope that we can maintain our communication. I hope that I can keep my mind open and sometimes snuggle with the girl who needs a little mommy time. Because as she grows, our relationship will change.

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1. OmegaMom - September 12, 2007

On the other hand, snuggle time now has more depth. I get serious questions and desires to talk from the dotter at snuggle time. We are also *READING A CHAPTER BOOK!!!* which she *BORROWED FROM THE SCHOO LIBRARY!!!*

All by herself! (The borrowing, not the reading.)

So make the time for the connecting. Find a new ritual to replace the on-the-way-home connecting, eh?

I owe you an email, apologies, things have been hectic…

2. carosgram - September 12, 2007

I always found that bedtime was when I really heard about how the day went. Maybe it was a tactic to delay going to sleep but I didn’t care because she was talking to me. This continued up through high school and even today that is the best time to talk, after her kids are asleep and before she is. Enjoy