There are days, you know those days, when you are ready to grab your passport, withdraw all of your cash and buy a one-way ticket to an isle where a Cabana boy named Juan can oil you down. Oh, and leave the kids behind while doing this. And what never fails on days like this, is that someone will make a comment about Soleil or Luna. Something along the lines of
She’s so cute and she is so caring and considerate. She must just be pure pleasure to be with!
The first thing I normally do when this happens is snap my head around, looking for the person that this crazed individual is talking to, because it can’t be me! Then I realize, oh, they ARE talking to me. How odd. I usually respond with something like "Oh she’s good in small doses" or something to that affect.
The second thing I do is analyze this conversation. I over think sometimes and this topic often makes me think. How do others view my kids? The truth is, they are extremely caring and considerate when we are not around. I have heard nothing but compliments from parents, teachers, daycare personnel on our daughters’ behavior. Somehow, this always surprises me. Perhaps it is because I am the one who has to deal with the kicking and screaming 3 year old. Or who has the 5 year old claim "I don’t like you, Mom!" as she turns her back on me. The screaming when things are working out between them. The crying and hitting. I am always amazed because I do see the harder parts of their personalities. I see the good sides too, but the bad sides I really see!
I guess those little gems hidden in parenting books "They will act worse with the parents because they trust them" are true. My girls can be perfect angels with other adults, but when I have them, forget about it. On those days that Juan is calling for me, I need to remember this:
They really are well behaved kids. They really are caring. I just don’t get to see that part of them much because they are so comfortable with me.