No risk here! July 15, 2009
Posted by spacemom in : Life...otherwise, Depression, Nance , trackbackRecently, I hear that someone got Dooced. That just sucks. Fortunately, there is very little risk of getting Dooced here because not that many people read my blog and those who are at work are even lower. So I can proceed with my post today with out fear, because there is very little Dooce risk here.
My office mate and co-worker is leaving this position next month. This is mightily stressful, but I am getting over that stress. Add in my fun depression and you can imagine the love here! Panic! Anxiety!
3 weeks ago, my supervisor and his supervisor, we’ll call them Frick and Frack wanted to meet with me. There was that work snafu during my vacation and then a few other slip ups lately. Also, I was freaking out about the whole "gah! We’re losing my co-worker" thing, so I had stopped up to talk to Frack about this. Due to various issues, this meeting was canceled and moved and all sorts of fun.
Yesterday, we had this meeting. We did discuss the issues of why I got so overloaded with work earlier this year when my co-worker let the supervisors know that he was looking, but for obvious reasons, they couldn’t tell me, nor could they give him these tasks. But we did discuss two "failures"(?) I’ve had recently. Attention to detail. Productivity. Etc.
We came down with an agreement that I need to manage my time better, although they understood the stresses I’ve been under. I also received praise for how I handle some of the other work I have.
The oddest part of this is that I handled the entire meeting well. In the past, I would have burst into tears. I would take this as a reflection of who I am as a person. I would feel that I am useless and a waste of biomass.
This time, I explained what happened. I agreed that in both cases, I could have handled things better. As a group, we agreed that I need to work on better time management skills. Then we moved on how to make our weekly tag ups more efficient.
Don’t get me wrong, I was certainly upset a bit that I had screwed up. The thing is, I am very proud of myself for just sucking up and saying, "okay, I messed up, let’s work on ways to avoid that in the future and move forward". I let a great deal of stress fall off of me by accepting this.
This was nice. I know that Frick and Frack aren’t about to fire me for a minor screw up. And I now know that I can forgive myself as well.
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That’s a good place to be in. I, too, would normally burst into tears at something like that, or go into a frozen state.
go nance!
Well done, I think you handled this very well. I take criticism very badly
No one likes criticism. And everyone tends to take it personal. The worst manager phrase is “it’s nothing personal” - well maybe for you it isn’t, but for the person you are talking to it certainly is.
You go Nance for dealing with it so well. I rarely do.
I had one of these meetings this week. I didn’t handle mine with as much grace and tact as you did. After being told “stay home and get better we’re fine” it was followed up with “You’re not even here 40 hours” and my time management was called into question. Mind you, this is on the day after a HUGE problem healthwise the night before where I collapsed at a customer’s site and spent my night in the ER and I was written out of work for at least another week and forbidden to drive. My husband took the day off and drove me to work - an hour each way and hung out at my mom’s house - so I could do payroll because my asst. mucked it up the week before and I had employees who did not get paid. My 2 hours turned into a full day (it began at 11 and I left at 7:30). I burst into tears. Ugly crying. Huge, ugly tears with the stutter talking. Mine was followed up with, “You’re an adult and a senior manager. You can make the best decision for you, but I don’t think your points are valid and you need to rethink it.” After all was said and done, to be cute, he threw in a “you’re not going to pass out are you?” Effer.
I rounded out my night with a Big Mac and a Vicodin.
Yay you!
Good for you. I’m working on myself to be able to discuss these types of things without having a breakdown. My boss knows it’s hard for me to talk about these things, so he tries to be a little nicer when I’m trying to discuss personal issues.
But, I’ve been having issues with some idiots at another location lately, and we have a meeting about this tomorrow. So stressful. I almost lost it today, and nearly got into an accident because I was so distracted. I hate my work getting screwed up because other people are complete dolts. My department is slightly at fault, but a whole situation developed because of the other location’s stupidity. Grr.
I feel you. Good for you.
And, Susan - your boss is an a**. Unbelievable.