So, let’s talk about feeling like a failure at parenting. First, the disclaimers. No, I am not a failure. Yes, we all have days where we feel like failures. No, this doesn’t mean that we are all creating a master race of self-centered crazy children…
I think, in general, Dr. Jay and I are good at this parenting thing. We’ve tried to create realistic expectations for the kids. We’ve tried to create a balance between responsibilities and fun time. We make sure they get things done, and let them be kids.
However, there are times, like this morning, I feel like I have created a spoiled brat. Luna is, well, stubborn. I can’t imagine where she got it from. (looking away and whistling). When she gets frustrated, she grunts and screams. And I mean SCREAMS. Like holy hell has broken loose and the hounds are about to be released on the next high pitch she makes. This morning? The kitchen island stool she wanted was stuck. So, she yanked at it while grunting. Both Jay and I were right there. All she had to do was ask for help. No, instead she got more and more frustrated. We both lost it. We both yelled (go us! NOT) and she started sobbing for us yelling.
Shining parenting moment there, eh?
The truth is, she’s been staying up too late because she screams at bedtime. I wish it were as simple as putting her in her room, shutting the door and walking away. It doesn’t work. We’ve tried. Trust me. This has got to stop. I just don’t know how.
We’ve tried a new reward routine. That worked until she got enough for her reward.
We’ve tried natural and artificial consequences. The natural leave EVERYBODY in the house pissed. The artificial leave one child sobbing and throwing up and the other with an upset stomach from the screaming.
I just don’t know what to do. I know she is only 6.5 years old, but MAN, shouldn’t she be doing better at this????
Any misery that you would like to share?
* barenaked ladies