Yeah, I know this took forever.Shut up, as if life doesn’t get all in your face too and take away all of the time you have.
Partly why this took so long is that I will probably offend EVERYONE. So hang in there.
So I have two kids. Two Jewish children who go to religious school and learn about God and all of that and their heritage and all of the things that make them Jewish. And I am not. Not only am I not Jewish, I am not anything. I just am.
This leads to some interesting conversations in our house. Soleil is proud to be Jewish as is Luna, but Soleil believes in a G-d. Luna doesn’t. Luna doesn’t see a conflict with being Jewish and not believing in G-d. Soleil does. We often discuss these things since I am atheist. Soleil gets very upset at anyone who makes fun of other religions. She gets upset at people who don’t understand that you can go without religion.
I’ve had to learn a great deal about Judaism to be a parent to Jewish children. Here’s my basic comparisons between Christianity and Judaism based on my experiences. I went to an Episcopal and the United Church of Christ as a child.
- G-d totally chilled out about some of the laws after having a kid
- The leaders of the Christian congregations stressed obedience to G-d’s word.
- The leaders of the Jewish congregations stressed obedience to one’s conscience
- If you ask forgiveness for your sins from G-d, you can reach salvation (Christianity)
- You must ask forgiveness from both G-d and those you harmed. (Judaism)
- To be a true Christian, you have to obey the word of G-d
- A true Jew prays like everything depends on G-d, but acts as if everything depends on himself
- Both religions can be corrupted by those who choose to use the words for their own power
- Both religions can be used to hold down women and the weak.
In the end, I can understand, in my heart, why I can’t follow any religion. Our temple has reached an interesting bump in the road where the rabbis are seriously discussing allowing one of the rabbis to perform a mixed marriage. This brings up the question of what is a Jewish community? And Dr. Jay and I are discussing it. We are on the same page. Neither of us want to see our daughters, or their friends turned away because they love someone who is not Jewish. The rabbis should respect the desire of the member who wants G-d in their marriage even if it cannot be a true Jewish ceremony.
So, I guess this kind of wraps up my religion rant.
Flame away and please ask if I failed to cover a point.